It’s been a while since I’ve updated this and I don’t quite remember what I did and what I didn’t say so if things are repeated, I apologize in advance. Last Friday was the day that Sophie and I were supposed to go to the circus… Alone. Friday, however, turned out to be the day that Sophie and I went to the circus… With Tori… The story was: Tori had seen the circus off the side of the freeway and asked Sophie to go with her to see it. I’m not 100% sure if Tori knew that I was going or if I originally had originally planned to take Sophie alone, but nevertheless, she was going now. I’m not sure if I had said this before, but Tori is apparently mad at me. The day before, the day Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows Pt. 2 came out, I had hung out with Tori, Sophie, and Caitlin to watch the first part of the last movie and drive them to the theater. I could not join them because, apparently, Tori “forgot to get me a ticket;” go figure. Anyways, I hung out with them and practiced what turned out to be a very authentic British accent. Sophie was very impressed with the accent and laughed about how it freaked her out because it didn’t seem like me anymore. I was quite proud. Anyways, we went through the night talking and hanging out, making jokes and whatnot as we usually do until they went into the theater and I went home. After the movie ended, Sophie came home and went right on to facebook and proceeded to tell me about the movie and the experience and such. Turns out we pulled an all nighter and were awake talking to each other until about 9:30 when we both fell asleep at the computer. At 1:00, we both woke up and almost at the same time, apologized for falling asleep. We then spent the next couple hours talking until she had to run some errands with her mom. After she had returned, we resumed our talking until we decided that it was time for pickups and time to head to the circus. When I had picked up Tori, she asked “What’s the circus we’re going to? When Sophie invited me, she just said it was a circus and I wasn’t sure which one.” And here, I froze. I realized that what seemed like an innocent “join in the fun” was really a “don’t make me go alone with him.” I wasn’t sure what that meant and I wasn’t really sure how to find out in the subtle way that I tend to take care of everything else. I tried my best to drop the circus topic and make pitiful attempts at smalltalk until we reached Sophie’s house and she took over for the talking. Some time later, Tori got very excited about having cotton candy and snow cones and excitedly asked “have you guys ever had cotton candy???” Sophie and I both laughed because it was a very stupid question. Don’t say you’re not laughing, it’s stupid right??? Anyways, Sophie and I were laughing hysterically saying “yes, we’ve had cotton candy.” It’s here that Tori freaks out and says “I think it’s really rude of you guys to laugh every time I say something like that, you make me sound like I was deprived as a child or something.” And the car went silent. I looked in the rear view mirror at Sophie in the backseat and said “what the fuck was that…?” with my eyes and she shot me a “I know right?” look. The car remained silent until we reached the circus where Sophie and Tori began talking to each other. We got our tickets and entered the tent where our tickets were checked. Apparently, the circus gave me a sign to stay away in the form of an accidental free upgrade to arena seating while Sophie and Tori got bleacher seats. Stupidly, I didn’t take the free offer and joined the two in the bleachers. About two minutes before the show was about to start, I leaned in towards Tori and said “hey, now’s your chance to get your cotton candy and snow cone, cuz you don’t want to miss any of the show” and she insisted that she was fine. Sophie began to chime in saying “yeah, you seemed so excited about it in the car and now you can get some, just go” and she noticed the people walking around selling it as well and pointed them out. Now Tori begins lecturing us about how she’s fat enough already and how it’s just empty calories. I know for a fact that this girl hates exercising, even walking, and thinks that eating less will help her lose weight and I know that there’s no point in her not eating it because of the “empty calories” but I’m too good of a friend to say anything. So, like a good friend, I say “hey, it’s the circus though, it’s a special occasion, fuck the empty calories, you were so excited about the food here, just get some!” and Tori snaps back with “Just drop it, alright.” in a very stern tone. This pissed me off because this marks the second time she has bitched at me about fucking cotton candy… Who gives a shit about fucking cotton candy enough to complain about it twice? And at that point I just shut up and didn’t say anything to her for the rest of that half of the show. The first half of the show was amazing, I’d describe it a bit, but that’s not the point of this blog. At intermission, they were bringing people down to the stage to take pictures with a snake for 10 dollars. Sophie and I were quite excited and got ready to go take the picture… Until Tori wanted in on it too. We decided that it was fine and while Sophie and I were getting totally psyched up to hold a snake, Tori was standing there trying to convince herself to go through with it. I looked over and I could tell she was shaking and I said “you don’t have to take this, you’re obviously scared… We’re not going to think any less of you if you back out…” Sophie helped with a “Yeah, it’s alright if you don’t want to do it.” But Tori looked at me, and in the same damn stern tone as before, she said “Drop it (my name). Just shut up about it already.” At this point, I was ready to knock her the fuck out and go home. But I shut up and took the picture while feigning happiness. We finished the show, got our picture, got back in the car and drove off to drop Sophie at home. When we got to Sophie’s house, she wanted to show us her backyard which had one of the most amazing views I had ever seen. I walked out as far as I could and although it was cold, I held my composure and stared out at our city in awe. Sophie came over and stood close to me and I could feel what little warmth was coming off of her small frame and it was comforting, nice. Tori, of course was complaining about how high up we were and how cold she was. Just to piss her off, I stalled and pointed at random clusters of light to see if Sophie and I could figure out what they were. Soon enough, we went back out to the car and Sophie gave Tori what seemed to be a series of failed hugs. After the third attempt or so, I began thinking of how Sophie had asked Tori to come along and how I essentially blame her for the monstrosities of the night caused by Tori’s presence. I began to walk back to the car completely ignoring the chance of getting a hug from the girl I had been fawning over for weeks now. As I walked away, I guess they had wrapped up their hug and I got a “goodnight (my name)” yelled to me and I turned around and tried to act as cool as I could with my half wave and my “later.” The ride home was surprisingly not as awkward as I had anticipated, however, I didn’t get the “I’m mad at you” vibe that Tori seemed to give off at the circus. This made me confused. When we got to Tori’s house, she suggested that we do a Harry Potter marathon and then go see the last movie in theaters (a fourth time for her, keep in mind that the movie had come out THAT day…). I agreed and bid her good night and drove away. I arrived home to an IM on my laptop saying “how was the ride home?” from Sophie. I told her how it was and we wound up talking about how awesome the circus was and Tori’s strange behavior. I had originally thought that the two of them were so close that they would immediately take each others’ side for any reason at all and I wasn’t expecting the conversation that I got from Sophie. Sophie agreed with me on everything that went on with Tori that night. She also told me that she knew the reason that Tori was mad and that it was nothing that I did and it shouldn’t be my job to talk to her and it’s her problem that she has to bring up with me. I think I knew the answer to my own question though. I am quite certain that Tori still likes me (for what reason, I’ll never know) but she has noticed how much I like Sophie and It really does show, I’ve noticed it quite often. I think that Tori is mad at me because I don’t like her back which is a stupid reason just like the stupid cotton candy thing… After that all passed, I began to get tired, and I tend to get really cheezy with girls I like when I’m really tired. The following day, I had a family picnic to go to and I had to be awake at 7:00 to make water balloons. She had told me that I should go to sleep that I would need rest in order to be awake so I wouldn’t get into trouble. I responded with “I would endure any punishment my parents could possibly bestow on me if it meant I could talk to you. She laughed and called me melodramatic. Time went on and it became 2:00 and she reminded me of the water balloons and I said that there’s nowhere that I wanted to be more than right were I was. She laughed and said “lying in bed?” and I said “Lying in bed talking to the only person who has found a way to keep me entertained for an entire day.” She laughed again and I don’t remember what happened after that. Soon we got on the topic of her dancing and her life and such. She said that lately she’s been feeling kind of crappy and when I asked her why, she said it was because she wasn’t stretching. I tried to help her by figuring out what it was that was stressing her and making her forget to do her stretches. I asked her “what in your life is new and distracting?” and she said “School and people… Actually… You, to be specific.” And I was frozen again. I didn’t know what to make of that. I wasn’t sure if I was a good distraction or a bad distraction. I knew I didn’t want to be a bad distraction but I also recalled another conversation that we had about how she was beginning to get annoyed by Ryan, the boy she used to like that I got insanely jealous over. And another guy, the ex-boyfriend of her best friend had been hitting on her recently and she had told me that she would never go out with him no matter how hard he tried. When I had asked her if I was annoying her in any way, she said that I wasn’t, at least, not that she could remember. She had also said that she is too polite to some people sometimes and I wasn’t sure if this was one of those polite cases or not. Of course, all this is just speculation and I could be completely off base about everything, but those last five words haunted me the following day and the rest of the night after she had gone to sleep. I had waited forever to hear those almost fairytale like words of “Actually, it’s you…” in response to a “who do you choose?” type scenario. However, now that I’ve received a response of such, I’m unsure of what to make of it. I want so badly for it to mean something good, for it to be a hint that she returns the feelings that I’ve had for her for the last 7 months, but I may never know. My stupidity and bashfulness has gotten in the way many times before and as much as I would like to rid myself of these petty nuances, I know that I will never be able to leave them behind. And now, for the last few days, I have been asking myself “what do I do?” From the depths of my mind, the idea of “Friends, Lovers, or Nothing” is starting to go from sounding like a pleasant idea that I could be content with, into something horrible and I know that whatever move I make from here on out has to be the right one, else I fall between the cracks and the amazing friendship we have now will dissolve into nothing.
Until next time,
HelplessRomanticist